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The Art of Doing Nothing...Not in my world

This blog is for the mom who asked me, "She wonders if her husband could possibly do as much as she could during the day?".  She also asked me "If a man could even do as much as a woman in raising kids every day?"  Ofcourse, I just laughed.  Well, here was my routine the day I talk to that mom (or mothers) with that question.

Wake-up: 3:50am - 4am
Work: 4:30am - 7am (train about 4 - 5 clients)
Back home: 7:15 - 7:30 (I make my wife's breakfast and lunch before she goes to work every morning)
Morning routine: 7:30- 8:30am (wake up kids; clean kitchen, load of laundry; breakfast for kids; brush kids teeth and hair; cloth children; make lunch and bottles; feed kids )
Off to School: 8:30 - 9:00am (Drive son to school)
Walk son to class: 9:00am - 9:10am (drop off son in class)
Do errands, business phone calls and spend time with other son: 9:15 - 10:00am
Back at work: 10am (Train client)
Train Client: 10:00am - 10:30am
Pick up marketing material and Meeting: 10:45am - 11:15am (quick meeting with marketing director)
Off to pick up Son: 11:15am
Back at School: 11:50
Pick up son: 12pm
Go to Lunch: 12:15 - :12:45pm
Arrive at Soccer Camp: 1pm
Soccer Camp: 1:15 - 2pm (I stay to take pictures for parents in soccer and to play with other son)
Travel back home: 2:15pm (we sometimes stop for Ice Cream)
Back home: 2:30pm
Rest and finsh home chores: 2:30- 3pm (Snack time; finish laundry, and start dinner)
Mommy home: 3pm (welcome mommy - Nice break for me to see her)
Fold Clothes and talk with wife: 3:00 - 3:30pm:
Off to Karate: 3:30pm (Dress son and drive to Karate)
Karate and Grocery shopping: 4pm - 4:30pm (I do some grocery shopping while son in karate)
Pick up son and drop off son: 4:35 - 4:50pm
Off to work: 4:50 - 5pm (Client at 5pm)
Working: 5pm - 8pm
Back home: 8:30pm (Help with putting boys to bed, clean kitchen or house; brush boys teeth)
Take Shower: 9pm
Do Homework: 9:30 - 10:30pm (do my homework for online course)
Prepare for tmr: 10:30 - 11pm (Prepare training schedule and Daddy routine for tmr)
Go to bed: 11:30 - 12am
Wake up in 4 hours..................for another busy day.

This is how my days are like each week.  Ofcourse, they vary some. Last week I was training for a bodybuilding show which accounts for lots of gym time getting ready.  Lack of sleeping is usually the big issue.  I hope this answers your question

WELCOME TO MY WORLD...I LOVE IT.

A priceless Story...it really pays to spend time with your family

My wife was telling me a story about a wonderful mother who didn't have much financially.  Okay...she was poor!  Her husband walked out and left her and her children to take care of themselves.  She went through the constant struggles of finding food/place to live for her 4 children.  Regardless of her financial situation, she made sure she was home for her children. She worked full-time where her kids went to school and when school was out she picked them up to take care of them.  The mother always made sure her children did their homework, were fed, spent family time together, and had all of their needs met (even when they were homeless). 

Get this....!  Even though she didn't have a lot of money, a nice car, a fancy house, ravishing clothes, suburban living, etc.  Her daughter received a FULL SCHOLARSHIP from numerous schools throughout the United States.  We aren't talking about no-name Universities either.  She has received a full Scholorship from University of Chicago, William and Mary, etc. 

We live in a world where our values are upside down.  Our kids don't need money, fancy cars, ravishing living, etc.  WHAT THEY NEED IS JUST OUR TIME! 

Spending time wtih your child....priceless!

Is raising a boy a dads job?

It has shown in almost every statistic that the best tool in raising your boy (children in general) is through a good moral, faithful and loving dad.  Mothers have been raising children all by themselves for too long.  It has shown over the last couple of decades how the loss of a good daddy in a boy will increase his chances to a struggling life.   Its not a mothers job to raise her children alone (unless she has to).  It's both parents job regardless if they are married, seperated or friends.  As I have mentioned in my other blogs.  The best gift for my children is showing them how much I love them and their mother through being there for them. 

Being a father with only boys.  I have found that a mother need to take a step back after the childs age of 2 or 3 for the daddy.  Children are so smart at an early age.  Daddy's need to step in as the primary caregiver when he see his son starting to become more deviant.  Boys will respond to an active and loving daddy much quicker then he would his mother.  Ofcourse, nothing can replace the love of a mother.  However, a Dads love is priceless.  If you don't believe me look up family statistics.  Over  94% of black males and 75% of all males in jail were raised only by mom.  

It's not mommies job to be the daddy in your boys life.  Its time for men to be what God created them to be..... His Image!  

Protect your children because the world will not

When will this madness stop?  Every time I turn on the news I hear about another child being tortured, abused, killed or neglected.  My heart breaks every day because Children are so innoscent.  Its starting to seem as if some people bring children into this world to abuse them.  What's worst is when they are treated badly by their parents.  Who can they cry out to.  We live in a world that has its values and morals switched upside down.  The only protection for our children is our love for them.  As a father, It starts with being a devoted Daddy., Husband and Servant to my  family.

Protect your children because the world will not. It may take a villag to raise our children but, it starts with your house.  In my house, we will serve the Lord.  God made me in his image.  I will shower my children wth the same Love that God gave me in creating me.  Together we can be the village that raised our children.

Little eyes are watching you.....

I wants heard a sermon where the pastor said "parents need to watch what road they are going down because little eyes are always watching".  That sentence took to my heart. We must recognize that our children are going to grow up to be just like us.  As a true chrisitan father I've dedicate my life in raising my children through consistency.  Every Sunday I go to church twice.  Once with the whole family and another time with just my oldest son.  In order for us to aid in our children to grow up to be loving people. We must show them first through our consistent actions.  O'yea....my son loves church and he is only 4 years of age.  That puts a big smile on mommy and daddy faces.

Who is raising your child dad?  If not you! Then don't be upset if your child doesn't become the way you wish he/she could have been. The responsibility isn't up to mommies (unless she is a single parent).

"Thank you Lord for our faith and feeling our heart with love that we may walk in obediance for our children to follow."

EGO'S: Woman vs Man

Could it be possible that woman has a bigger ego versus a man?  Here is another thought for men.  Do you think your wife (girlfriend) would even admit they have a big ego?  

Homeschooling really works

One of the reasons I wanted to raise my kids was the option to homeschool them.  I always heard of the many, many benefits your child gets from homeschooling.  I just wasn't sure of myself as a teacher.  All doubts are cleared up now.  I started homeschooling my oldest son when he was around two years of age.  It has been an amazing accomplishment to see him reading books at second grade level and learning Math at a rapid rate.  This morning we are learning his adding of three's (3+1=, 3+4=, etc).  I truly recommend homeschooling if you think your child can handle it (really...if you can handle it.  It can be a serious challenge sometimes).

Fit Tip #2 - Foul weather workouts

I have many friends and clients who are sick right now.  The questions that keeps being ask is "Should I still try to workout if I am not feeling well?".  Yes, you should try to stay on your workout routine even when you aren't feeling 100%.  However, If you have a fever I think you should rest for first 24 hours or until your fever gets back to normal.  Working out even when you don't feel well forces your body to repair itself.  Don't try to go full force.  Even doing a little bit will help you feel better. 

My rule for thought: If you can go to work for your boss; You can go to the gym for yourself

What measures your character?

 I believe the measure of a man is through his love of his family.  The way your children act in public will characterize how the parents are like behind closed doors. In most cases this is true.  Which is why I had to explain myself when my son (about a year ago) decided to start using the bathroom his own way.  It was a beautiful sunny day at our favorite playground.  My son was running around with a bunch of children before he decided to drop his pants and whip out his new discovery to water the playground.  As he was watering the playground he expressed a big "AHHHH".  Ofcourse all the mothers (which were alot of them) just laughed.  Did I mentioned that I was the only daddy on the playground.  What is a man to do? 

I guess you can say that I am truly a care free guy.  When you have to go....just go! How has your kid(s) characterized you in public?

Christmas in April

My christmas gift to my wife is pampering her everyday.  My christmas gift to my children is showing how to love someone consistenly. Every morning I rush home to make breakfast (mostly hot) for my wife and her lunch for work.  This morning was no exception.  I woke up at 4am and went to work to train some clients. I came back home to make my wife a spinach, cheese and egg white omelette over strawberries. I have been doing this service for my wife for over a year now.  "I believe that the greatest gift I can give to my children is demonstrating how I love their mother."  What I've acknowledged within my boys is my oldest child shows the same love to his mother (and younger brother) through the love he sees consistently from his dad to his mother.

Best workout ever....Be a stay home Dad

I have the deepest respect for all mothers around the world who stayed at home.  I truly love being a stay home parent for most of the day (my wife gets the honor at night when I go back to work).  It is a very exhausting task each day.  I find myself getting a workout from just running around keeping my boys happy. Its like doing cardio all day.  I truly suggest that if you are a dad looking forward into being a stay home parent?  PUT YOUR STOCKS INTO ENERGY DRINKS.

 A 5-hour energy drink isn't enough.  Do they make a 12 hours energy drink?  Hmmmmm.....I see a money making business..haha

Life as we know it

We sometimes see a movie that helps us remember why we got married and became a parent.  I rented a movie called "Life as we know it".  It was a funny, dramatic and heart-warming movie.  It really made me feel like nothing is more beautiful than being married and a daddy.  Without losing my Man-Card, I would recommend this movie for all men to rent and watch with his wife.  This is a major brownie point movie.

A women intuition....

One of the major tools I've leaned being the stay home parent is to follow your intuition.  I've always heard that growing up from my father.  He would tell me that a woman's intuition was very powerful.  Well, I must have gotten a "D" for listening on that day.  I drove my son to get a Chocolate Shake for doing so well in karate class.  My first thought was to change him out of his uniform (which is white ofcourse...I think you know where this is going).  However, I ignored my intuition and gave my son the benefit of the doubt.  Lets just say that I was remembering everything my father was telling me as I was washing out the back seat and soaking his uniform.  DARN WOMEN INTUITION......

Shut up ladies....keep your intuition (haha)

Fit Parent 101 - Don't be too hard on yourself

Whenever I am starting with a new client looking to get her weight back before she became pregnant.  I try to find out where she is mentally within herself.  What I've found is that mommies are overwhelmed and stressed out.   I do find a few who just want to get in shape but, would be just as happy if they never changed.  To get in shape, A mommie must love herself now (yes, in that distorted body), in order to love her new body later. Most woman can't get pass the thought of accepting her body now.  A woman will more than likely fail before she reaches her fitness goals.  She never puts her mind completely into her fitness goals. Most women (people in general) just want to be in shape.  However, they have no idea what that means.  That is why people's ideal  fitness body is compared to when they were younger or when they were in college. Stop thinking about the crazy days.  You are now a bless motheer!.

Tips:  Seriously think about how much time, energy and mental focus you can put into your fitness goals.  Set 30 - 60 minutes a day just for you.  Make fitness a part of your everyday life while at home.  Watch what you eat and stay active.  DON'T KEEP WEIGHING YOURSELF.   As you add on more lean muscles and lose body fat, your body will tone up.

"Who does that?"

A HOUSE ISN'T A HOME UNLESS YOU MOVE IN:

I just heard of a good friend who spent years saving up money and going through the hassle of looking for a new home to buy.  To her surprise, she was able to buy a wonderful home that is 4 br and 3.5 bath about 4 - 5 months ago. GET THIS!  I just found out that she still lives at home and the house has no furniture. Nothing is wrong with the house.  CHECK THIS OUT! She is going to through a house warming party for a house with NO (I MEAN NO) furniture.  Can someone please explain that to me? 

Upcoming Events for Daddy and Little Me Members

Below is a list of events coming in April. We will be schedule events on a weekly basis each month.  "You name it and we will do it".  Coming up will be Camping Trips, Hiking, Sailing, Fishing, Ice Cream Socials, Cooking classes, Private Movie Screening, Barbeques, Wine Tasting, etc. Pricing is based on each event.  Members receive discounts.  Please sign-up for free at http://www.daddyandlittleme.org/

April 16 at 11:00 am. Loading cargo for shipment.  Parking lot at 6335 Little River Turnpike, Alex. 22312. Volunteers welcomed. Bring donations for shipment.  We also need an early bird group who will begin at 7:00 am. That group will meet at 635 25th St. South, Arlington, Va. 22202.  If you are planning to come or if you have questions, email us.

April 23 at 11:00 am. Loading cargo for shipment.  Parking lot at 6335 Little River Turnpike, Alex. 22312. Volunteers welcomed. Bring donations for shipment.  We also need an early bird group who will begin at 7:00 am. That group will meet at 635 25th St. South, Arlington, Va. 22202.  If you are planning to come or if you have questions, email us.

April 24 at 12pm.  Daddy and Little Me Garage Sale.  Come to 5406 Seminary Road, Alexandria, VA 22311.  There will be lots of high valuable items. 

April 30 @ 9am.  Natural Bodybuilding Competition located in Old Town Alexandria.  Come see some of the most beautiful bodies in Washington DC surrounding areas.  Go to Lee Center on Jefferson Street in Old Town Alexandria

The Ultimate Social Playground for Dads

If you are a dad looking for some fun either alone or with your child?  Come connect with other men who are enjoying some great adventure while bonding and spending time with there kid(s).  I own a non-profit organization for dads called Daddy and Little Me. Go to http://www.daddyandlittleme.org/ to read more.  I started the organization to reach out to other dads because it was hard for me to find any parent to hangout with.  You name the adventure; we do it! 

To be a member go to the website and fill out your information.  Its Free! 

Nap time is priceless..!

Okay..!  This doesn't happen alot but, both boys went down for a nap together.  Can you say O'YEA..!
What does an American Express Credit Card commercial know anything about being priceless?  Having your kids go down for an hour or two at the same time..!  Why don't you tell me what that means to you?